My Mother struggled with addiction and loving people who hurt and took advantage of her. My father left when I was 5, became obsessed with work and climbing the corporate ladder, and holding true to republican conservative ideals and standards.
I was confused and fearful and thought humans were insane, dangerous, and judgemental. If I controlled and caretook people who were damaged I would be safe and feel valued. I pursued a music career and left it due to cervical cancer, collapsed in my trauma after my friend overdosed, only later to find myself married to another addict.
I had to address my trauma or pain or I was going to die. My soul knew there was another way. After leaving my marriage at 29, I deepened in my codependence recovery, sending me on an unstoppable path of the pursuit of healing, truth, love, and happiness. I never fit into a box. I was a free thinker and lover. Since 25 I have explored variations of open relating, but never really went too far because I didn’t think I could. I wanted to go further, but my husband and I didn’t have the tools, knowledge, and support necessary to pursue it. I ended up leaving him to find myself in a relationship with a top expert in communication. I studied relationships deeply and became obsessed desiring to learn the intimacy tools and skills that were not modeled in my childhood. We had a profound love, but we were not configured properly. We both changed ourselves out of our integrity and truth to make it work. Since then, we segued our partnership and I decided to come out and claim my full authentic self without shame: queer, poly, and an explorer of kink. I dedicated myself to end hiding in every area of my life. I owned my unique pleasure and turned on, and released my shame about it. I then met Michael Author. My life shifted dramatically from that point. I felt like I could finally be myself 100%. I also felt safe. I finally met someone on a similar life trajectory dedicated to growth as their number one value. We both are open and queer and dedicated to supporting other like minded weirdos in sex and relationship.
Personally, I work with fem identified growth oriented entrepreneurs wanting to own their authentic truth, expand their play, sexual range and creative expression. I also support them to have the tools to communicate, connect, configure properly, and create mutually rewarding relationships.. My partner and I do couples work together supporting couples to create greater emotional and sexual intimacy as well as help people configure in poly/ open relating.